Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Boys to Men.

I am dismayed by our protectionist culture today. We seem to want to protect everyone from everything. I myself like dangerous things and I know how to use them safely.  I was not caudled as a boy and protected from everything and called baby. I was allowed to play outside without a parent panicking that I might hurt myself. I was made to do work, pitch in around the house, and go hunting and fishing at a young age. I was probably as much hinderence as help to my father in most areas but I learned how to do things that a man should know how to do.  We used chainsaws, axes, mowers, guns, and knives.  We stayed out in the woods for days at a time. We night fished, and crappie fished, and gardened.  We hunted, trapped, and ran trot lines.  We worked.......and I mean we worked hard.  We built a deck onto the house, we painted the house, we worked on our vehicles ourselves, we mowed our own yard. to sum up, I was not treated like a fragile vessel that would shatter at any hardship. Today we seem to be treating our boys like little babies that will never grow up instead of the men in training that they are.
The Boy on a camping/hunting trip with me in the Big South Fork wilderness area at 8 years old

I have started giving my son the benefit of the doubt. If the hunting trip I am going on is in a tough rugged place and the weather is not that good I'll take him anyway. If the work that needs done is tough I'm bringing him along. I am proud to say he is blossoming. I was trying to "protect" him from tough situations but as soon as I took some of the constraints off. Let him use his knives, go on overnights in the mountains in the winter, and help bust and stack wood, he began to grow and become more confident and capable.  I have learned that our children can become men if we teach them how and on the job training is the best training of all. Your pal the Envirocapitalist.

4 comments:

  1. Good for you! Just remember, modern America doesn't WANT men, though it desperately needs them.

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  2. Great post and great mentality to have. I hope to treat my son the same way and make sure he ends up like the man he should be!

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  3. well said Gabe - trying to make mine more self-sufficient too. It is a struggle these days when so much is done for kids - and so many other people think that you are being wreckless and callous when you expect hard work from your kids. The schools have to "baby" kids too. The day at school that it was raining and they were trying to walk each kid under an umbrella to their cars- I revolted and said "Lawdy - let 'em get rained on - good grief". We need to raise women and men -- not perpetual kids.

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